How to Have Great, Fulfilling Gay Sex

By Harry Novak the Bear

How to Have Great, Fulfilling Gay Sex

Gay sex can be a very fantastic experience.

If you do it right it will be pleasing and satisfying on so many levels – physically, emotionally and even mentally. But the problem is most of the world is just starting to get comfortable with this whole idea of two men getting involved romantically.

Meaning if you are just coming out you might bump into a lot of misleading and conflicting information about gay sex men. But don’t worry, we are here to set the record straight (no pun intended); and it’s nothing but a smooth ride!

What to Do Before Gay Sex

1. Is it your first time?

The first thing you need to do is ask yourself is why you want to have gay sex in the first place. It could be your first time completely or just the first time with a new lover. Either way, don’t have gay sex just to prove you are gay. Do it only when you are ready psychologically and age-wise.

2. Don’t believe everything you see

There is so much information and material about gay sex men these days. Well, that’s not necessarily a bad thing but it’s important to separate the real from fiction. You probably have watched videos to see how two men do it.

While that provides the overall picture of gay sex, you should keep in mind that most porn and film clips are spiced with fake erotic tones. But it’s always nice to look around. One great way of knowing what to expect is talking to people through discussions; especially the older guys.

3. Diet is a key factor

Now, when it comes to diet there are two main things that will enhance your gay sex experience. The first is fiber. A diet rich in fiber will make it easy for you to clean your anus. Secondly, by all means try to allow food to digest before you have gay sex, especially if you will be bottoming. Otherwise the digestion processes, combined with the pumping of your anal muscles, can cause bloating and discomfort.

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4. Know your partner’s health status

There’s no doubt that gay sex is full of pleasure and amazing experiences. But no amount of that is worth risking your life. If it is a new lover then make sure you know their health status. Ask about their STI status beforehand. Still, it’s a very great idea to use a condom regardless of your lover’s status.

5. Cleanse your anus

Nobody likes dirty sex (in the literal meaning of the word) and best believe gay sex can really get messy. The good thing is that you can prevent all that by simply cleaning yourself thoroughly. Invest in a good anal cleanser (popularly known as douche) and use it just before you start having sex. Don’t forget to always keep your cleanser clean.

What to Do During Gay Sex

6. Be mentally prepared

As you get in the sexy mood, it would be very helpful to mentally rehearse the gay sex experience. If you are a newbie there will definitely be some pain, particularly if you will be bottoming. But with the right mindset, you can increase your threshold for pain and end up having a great first time.

7. Engage in foreplay

One perfect way of preparing yourself mentally and physically is through foreplay. Some kissing, cuddling and oral will go a long way in relaxing your mind and muscles.

8. Are you a top, bottom or versatile?

If you’ve had gay sex before you will know whether you are a top, bottom or versatile. Basically, a top is someone who is only comfortable with being on top while a bottom is only comfortable being at the bottom. Regardless of your preference, be sure there is someone who likes the opposite, so don’t worry about getting a match. A versatile gay man can do both. If you are a newbie you can either follow your gut or try being a top or bottom and see which one you like.

9. A high-quality lube will make the experience even better

When you get to the real action, be sure to have some lube with you. It will reduce friction between the stick and anus, which in turn lessens or completely eliminates pain. Silicon based lubricants are the best.

10. Relax your muscles

The hardest part of anal sex is getting your partner’s head in. If you are new to the whole gay sex thing be prepared to take some pain. But you can minimize it by relaxing your anal (and virtually all body) muscles. Remember step steps 6 and 7? They were leading up to this. Note that certain positions make penetration very easy and less painful. For example, you can opt to be on all fours to minimize pain. Once that phase is over there will be nothing but well-earned pleasure for you!

12. Feeling a little poopy?

Don’t freak out, it’s pretty normal. Just don’t allow the poop to come out!

13. Maximize pleasure

Now make the best of your experience by getting the maximum pleasure possible. There are many ways of doing that. First you can stroke your shaft as your lover does the pounding. Second you can let him do the stroking even as he does the sexing. Thirdly you can introduce toys to the mix. At this point it really is down to how comfortable you two are with each other.

After the Sex

14. Spend time with your partner

It wouldn’t hurt to spend a few romantic minutes with your lover. If you are in the mood some kissing, touching and cuddling could help in bonding.

15. Clean up

Finally, clean up. Of course you have to shower. A great way to wind down is doing that together.

And remember, if you didn’t like the gay sex experience you have every right not to try it until you are fully ready. At times it’s all about timing more than anything else.

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